Let us be real just for one minute. When your clique is getting bigger, and by bigger I mean people bringing in partners, you sometimes lose your shit. And by sometimes I mean constantly. Only because these partners are outsiders, and they haven’t earned their way into the group. But what happens when these people were already a member of the group and they suddenly link up with another member? That is probably one of the biggest nightmares for almost any single gal out there. Maybe even the single boys. But mainly the girls. And don’t judge if you think “All this ho thinks about are boys and relationships and why she is still single and keeps bitching”. Well listen here, I tell my girls to their face all this anyway, so technically I’m not bitching. I’m just turning my woes in to some light hearted reading. Back to the topic, when everyone around you is in a relationship, I mean four of my close girlfriends are now happily taken. And do not get me wrong, I am thoroughly happy for them all! (Big shout out to one of them for just celebrating their one year anniversary!). But let us please be real, I beg of you, does it not get annoying? When you’re the single one, especially being one of the ‘outspoken, strong and stylish’ dare I say it, ones in the group? And just to be clear, you all are stylish ladies! Am I the only one that gets, let’s use “lonely” for better terms, lonely at night? And for all those people that say I don’t need a man to make me happy, who the hell are you even kidding? Feminists would probably hate me right now, but hey, it is the truth. At least for me it is. We single gals see all you non-single gals. Going out to places, we as friends had planned, going down the beach for a stroll, or a surprise picnic. We see you going off on holidays, we see you spending a day together. We also notice it when, you don’t tell your single friends what you plan to do, when we ask if you’re free. It is okay guys. We will not bite your head off. We single people would like to be kept in the loop so we do not look like idiots half the time. Other than that, keep at the relationship and let it blossom.
My main goal for this article was to talk about what goes on when almost everyone around you are in relationships. Well what happens when my friends are in relationships. It is not a bad thing. It is not something I hate. I actually love to bitch about couples, IN FRONT of couples. Shout out to my girls that I give shit to everyday! The thing is, it can get annoying and frustrating. Especially when you go through a crisis of “I will never find someone” and “why am I single, I am a nice person” kind of phase and your friends give the advice of “you will find someone” or “all in good time” or “relationships aren’t all that”. Mother fucker, if relationships really aren’t all that, then why the hell are you even in one? Kind of begs the question does it not? And for those who always say all in good time, nothing ever happens in good time. Especially when you are crying in bed, under the sheets, from watching Ps I love you just a little too much. People that are in relationships, please do not give single people advice about why they aren’t in one, it just infuriates us even more.
This is not an article to hate, belittle or bitch about, this is just something that I, as a single girl surrounded by couples, go through and I just felt it would be good to write about.
Any readers that feel the same, or go through similar things, leave a comment, discuss what goes on within your circle! Nothing to be ashamed for, single people sometimes need a little attention from time to time.
And single boys, leave your number.